I am always amazed at the strength of women who walk away from situations that aren’t good for them or make them unhappy. Like so many, I have been there.
But there are women who stay. We cannot force them to leave. We can only hope and pray they can see the infinite potential they have to find their own happiness.
I don’t stay. I walk away because I know my potential and self-worth.
The moment you realize your self-worth, it is amazing and priceless.
Anytime I have questioned my circumstances, I knew something had to change. Whether it is a job, a city, or people, even if it’s family. I can’t stay in situations that hold me back or that are unfulfilling.
I have tried to wait for situations to get better. I have pretended to be happy. I have questioned whether I could leave. But all these things were indicators that I should leave certain situations and relationships.
I was tired and defeated and resentful. I had given my power to others and I was unhappy. I sought help from professionals and friends on dealing with specific situations that caused me anxiety and the reasons and people for them.
I was tired of giving more than I had to give in to many of my relationships and feeling like I didn’t get enough back.
I wanted to smile and laugh again. I was tired of being sad all the time. The stress was overwhelming and the hurt was too much.
One day, the universe forced my hand. It was time to move on and I found my strength. I was the only one holding me back. I had to believe I was enough. And yes, I was afraid of the aftermath. I still am, but I refuse to give control of my life and happiness to others.
I am no longer angry or resentful. I picked myself and found the courage to believe in myself. I am strong and I will survive on my own terms and with the people I want in my life.
The person I was before was weak. She let others determine her happiness and self-worth. She didn’t feel enough for herself, for God, for love and at most relationships in her life.
I wanted to live my life without fear and without the expectations of others. I wanted to feel joy and passion and for the first in my life, I am feeling just that. And it took leaving people behind that were holding me back.
Happiness found me because I choose be unconditionally happy and not allow people back in my life who expected me to live my life on their terms.
For all the amazing ladies out there, I hope you find the strength and the courage to live your life joyfully. I hope you can feel worthy and breathe freely and I hope you never look back. I hope you feel enough and loved.
Because happiness and freedom from others’ expectations is the best feeling the world and I have no intention of ever feeling differently again.