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NHBPM Day 3: Dear 18 year old me


Today’s blogging topic involves writing a letter to yourself when you were 18.  If you are going to do this, be sure to tell yourself what to do more of, what to do less of, and what you have to look forward to in the next few (or several) year.

Dear 18 year old me:

Congrats on finishing up high school.  It is big deal and probably the last time that you can in a me-me zone.  By the time you are twenty-five, you will have four kids and by 32, you will have five.

There will be obstacles along the way but in the end, you won’t have any regrets so it is okay to take chances.  For the next year, however, it is okay to waste time doing nothing but having fun.  You will never have that opportunity again, and it is only a year so enjoy it. Life will come at you soon enough so enjoy every minute of it.

Spend more time with your parents and don’t be angry at them for everything.  Dad maybe tough on you but he means well. There will be a time when you really wish he was around.  Mom is strict but one day she will be one of your best friends. You will look up to her because you realize that you are more like her than you ever imagined and you will be very proud of that. Your mom will always be your biggest fan so remember that when you are young and still hating her.

Even later when chronic illness comes into your life, you will learn to make sweet lemonade with pretty sour lemons.  But before that time, try new things. Don’t get stuck in being so serious all the time because there will be a day one life throws some big responsibilities at you. Also, know that you will make mistakes and the people that you thought you could rely may not be as reliable as you expected them to be but don’t be disappointed.  Regardless of the situation, they came in your life for a reason. Learn from the heartache and move on. 

Spend more time with your siblings because you never know what pain life can bring.  One day you will wake up and you realize that your sisters are your best friends but don’t forget about your brothers.  Make sure that you keep in contact with them even when they are angry at you.  Again, you never know what life will bring, and even when there is heartache, you will know how to handle it. 

When you remarry, understand that sometimes people go into marriage thinking they won’t make the same mistakes again.  That is not necessarily true. Mistakes are things that we hope to learn from and sometimes, we have to make them more than once to get things right.  Also, know that money is the biggest reason marriages fail. However, it is okay provided you understand where you failed and you work to overcome and fix that.

Know this. Despite everything, you will learn that you are smarter than you think, braver than you know and stronger than you ever thought possible.  Life will test you and you will rise to every challenge. 

This post was written as part of NHBPM – 30 health posts in 30 days:



2 thoughts on “NHBPM Day 3: Dear 18 year old me

  1. Your letter is positive, Lana! Wouldn’t it be nice if we really could receive a letter from our older selves–one that would warn us that we’ll need to be strong, but that also assures us that there is joy waiting for us, too?

    1. True, but if this letter was given to me at 18, I wouldn’t have taken anything in it to heart. When you are 18, you think you are in control of your future, and you don’t know that the only thing you can control is your response.

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