I wonder what marriage means to a modern society. Remember when you are younger and believed in princesses and princes. The older you got the more you realized that the stuff fairytales were made of is nonexistent. Humans are not perfect and that is what life is all about. The whole fairytale fantasy of that marriage is about passion, commitment and strength is further absent. That fantasy does not exist in my home, your home or any home in modern society.
The majority of marriages I have seen are based on either convenience or impulse, and I am not saying that that is intentional on anyone’s part. As a society, we have taken a loose perception about marriage and today’s marriages are based solely on saying hello and goodbye to your spouse as your rush about your daily lives with your jobs, your children, and all of life’s demands. Maybe marriage is less significant because as a society we have gone away from the traditional views of marriage, like marrying to have children and to be a part of something bigger as in a family unit.
We hear so much the declining numbers of people getting married and the increasing number of divorces. All we have to do is turn our eyes to Hollywood and see that marriage has been turned into a commercial industry. With shows like The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, marriage has become a one-season project. Think about the marriage of Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson. It only lasted as long as the cameras were shooting. Jon and Kate – need I say more? Is this how we define marriage nowadays?
The media takes a strong idealistic approach to celebrity marriages; they pay millions for wedding pictures, and then, they fight for the gossip on the divorce for the same marriage that they paid millions for in wedding pictures. It goes to show that marriage has become devalued. We are paying more attention to which couples make it and we have become so consumed in the failing marriage gossip. The media wouldn’t be publicizing if people do not want to hear it. Ironic, isn’t it?
I want to believe that marriage is something we take seriously and it is not something based on cultural trends. Unfortunately, due to our busy lives and today’s demands, we have not taken opportunity to appreciate marriage. As a society, we have taken an individualism approach. We focus primary on our careers, and we are quite often too busy to focus on our personal relationships. Our sense of community has long disappeared and because of that, we have forgotten the importance of marriage and family. I know that I sound like Dr. Phil but as much as I enjoy having a career and a life, I would trade it for a marriage of the 1950s.