I have learned to be a strong woman especially considering all the lemons life has handed me, but as a mother, I am weak. My children are my kryptonite, and their needing me makes me feel weak. Sometimes, I feel like no matter what I do I am inadequate as a mother. I feel like my children deserve a mother who is stronger, who is more resilient, and could invent more hours in the day.
I know all too well that super mom does not exist, but it does not mean, I don’t try to make super mom a reality. Super mom, in my eyes, can make a living, take care of her home and her family, and never feel weak or sad. Conditions like rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia, they do not dictate super mom’s life, but they dictate mine sometimes to a point where I can’t always hide the pain.
I am not saddened by the pain itself, but I am saddened that I cannot always be strong in front of my children. I saddened that my conditions have robbed me all the things I can no longer do with my children. I saddened because when I come home from work every evening, all I can do is rest, instead of playing with my children. I saddened that I have taken too many sick days from my job, that I can’t take a day off from my job to spend it with them. I am saddened when they are sick, when they are sad, and when they are hurt because I know all too well the reality of sickness, sadness, and pain. Like any mother, I am saddened that I am weak, and sometimes, I am not brave enough to hide how weak I am.
As a woman, I am strong and I have taken too many lemons and made them into gallons of lemonade. I haven’t allowed my condition to hinder the woman that I am. I stay strong through the hardest hit storms, but the one storm that I cannot fight is this invisible illness that lives inside of me and that robs of the one thing I desperately seek – time with my children. It saddens me that one day they will grown up and I will have missed out on a lot because of RA and fibromyalgia. It makes me want to heal in the strongest way possible. That is where I am the strongest – when life hands me the reality of RA and fibro and those conditions – they want to rob me of my biggest weakness – motherhood.
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Ways to ease the stress of the work-life balance
There is no question that being a working mom is stressful and tiring work. The working mothers that you see on television shuffling their children off from place to place and cleaning their home always manage to have a smile on their face. Do you know why they are this way and you are not? Simple, their lives are written by a creative writing team and you spent your days juggling a real home life and a real career life, and the end result is that you put everyone and everything in your life first and yourself last.
Whether you getting the kids ready for school in the morning or preparing dinner, it’s always a long day for you. Here are some ideas to ease the stress of your work-life balance.